Anxiety is NOT the Enemy.
In actuality, anxiety has helped you motivate yourself to accomplish much of what you’ve achieved in your life. It helped to prepare you to face the challenges that you saw coming up ahead. All that extra effort, that going the extra mile, that stress you put into making a good impression, doing that fantastic presentation. It’s anxiety that keeps you on your toes and helps you shape your success.
Additionally, anxiety can make people nicer and more considerate as they care about what others are thinking or experiencing, and makes you more concerned about your interactions with others. In fact, leaders who struggle with anxiety can be more effective as they can be better problem-solvers because they put more care into their decision making. There is definitely a benefit to being able to see everything that could possibly go wrong.
Anxiety is trying to keep you safe. Wired for a world in which we were more hunter-gatherers the flight-fight response kept us all alive. Presently, we live in a world where we are not being chased by tigers, but the anxiety response can be trigger in even minor situations as though they are real threats; and overtime anxiety can become our baseline.
While there are some benefits to anxiety it is a bitch to live with and the symptoms can be exhausting and debilitating. Rather than improve our relationships and careers, unchecked it can devastate them. I would like to help you change your relationship with the anxiety you are dealing with. To better understand it, and learn tools to master it, and transform it into an opportunity for self-growth.
Your symptoms can be difficult to manage, but exploring and coping with your anxiety can be a real opportunity for self-knowledge, self-care and self-growth.
Let’s face it, you’ll probably sense the signs of the coming zombie apocalypse before anyone else does. Now imagine doing it with calm, confidence, and class. And perhaps a killer pair of heels.
Your perfectionism, that attention to detail and those high standards, have gotten you to where you are today. But if you’re honest with yourself, you know your perfectionism is coming from a place of fear. It is this fear that has you procrastinating and feeling paralyzed. After all, what is the point of doing anything if it won’t meet your high standards?
I know you learned very early in your life that being prefect was the best and maybe the only acceptable way to be or do anything. Most perfectionists grew up in homes that felt chaotic. Perfectionism allows a sense of structure or control in a situation where there was often none. And Brene Brown tells us perfectionism is a cover for our vulnerability.
This endless pursuit of perfectionism will leave you exhausted, empty, and feeling like an impostor. Perfectionism not only affects you in the office, it is damaging your relationships too. You often see the world in black-and-white, and are missing the fact that the relaxing and engaging life you want exists only in the gray.
I would love to help you dissect what is behind your need for perfectionism. To lessen the feelings of shame and judgment. We can find where perfectionism serves you and where you can let go of some of those standards and see the world will not all fall apart.
Imagine how it would feel to break free from the chains of perfectionism. To truly understand that your value and worth have nothing to do with how well you perform or how you fit society's standard of beauty. How wonderful it would feel to be able to relax and be fully present with and enjoy your family. You would feel more confident in your work and in your relationships. And instead of procrastinating on those important tasks, feeling excited to get started and allowing it all to come together as you go along.
You have a hard time saying no to others, even if it means you’re
always putting yourself last. You don’t want to let others down and
have a strong desire to be liked by everyone - a genuine people
You find it difficult to communicate honestly to others about what you
need or don’t want. You know you need better boundaries but don’t
know how and are fearful it will create the conflict you are trying so hard
You have a need to be in a relationship even if on some level you
know it is not a healthy one; so afraid of abandonment, rejection,
being judged negatively by others - yet not finding the intimacy you
Your emotions are running the show - and it’s exhausting. Others may have labeled you as being over-sensitive. Shame and vulnerability are hiding under the surface. It’s overwhelming trying to keep it all together.
Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship in which we get our self-esteem and emotional needs from the other people in our lives instead of being able to fulfill those things on our own. It’s roots are found in childhood trauma and the lost connection to one’s self. The bottom line is you’re engaging in relationships like a child and not like the confident adult woman you want to be.
Imagine how wonderful it will feel to know and trust yourself in setting up healthy boundaries in your life. How different your life will be when you know how to find and cultivate healthy relationships that support you and you have the courage to let go of those that don’t serve you.How freeing it will be to be out of that people-pleasing trap that has destroyed your self-esteem as well as the connection to yourself and the Divine.
Breaking the bonds of codependency is not easy, especially if it is a multi-generational pattern. You have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone and step into the unknown.
Therapy can support you in challenging your fears, creating boundaries, and in building your confidence by improving your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect, and self-care.
Learning to find the things that bring you excitement and joy is a game changer.
"Our whole spiritual transformation brings us to the point where we realize that in our own being, we are enough.”
Psychotherapy for Women
Spiritual &Transpersonal Psychotherapy
While I am trained in evidence-based therapies my passion lies in the Spiritual and Transpersonal Psychology worlds. Hence, I am probably not the typical mainstream psychologist - I may be a bit more on the mystical and woo-woo side. So if you’re looking for a therapist who is familiar with NDEs, epigenetics, timeline and paradigm shifts, struggles of 3D reality, simulation theory, Lilydale, frequency & vibration, and transcendental spiritual experiences - and who isn’t going to diagnose you as crazy, I am one of those therapists.
Many of us have lost touch with our intuition. We are so distracted we can’t even hear our higher-selves. And we have lost the innate knowledge that our mind, bodies, and souls can heal. Spiritual psychology is about connecting and tapping into something bigger than your personal-self, a constant striving for awareness and knowing how to bring yourself back to the center.
To get there we have to do the soul work and evolve into becoming empowered adults, leaving the child-self and the victim behind. We need to develop discernment and critical thinking, master our mind/beliefs and emotions, and remove all the layers that limit our connection with our inner selves and the Divine. This involves shadow work, reprogramming beliefs, emotional regulation, journaling and meditation or contemplation.
Soul work and conscious evolution is not for everyone. Some did not sign up for this work in this lifetime. It is hard work and it takes responsibility and accountability, moving away from the mainstream and learning to think for yourself. It requires the letting go for the need for external validation as you rely on your own internal validation and guidance systems. Only you know if you are meant to do it.
I also provide psychedelic integration. While I cannot offer support during the ingestion of psychedelics, as it is illegal for me to do so at this time, I can help you prepare for the ritual and the re-entry process so you can get the most out of the experience. Psychedelic integration can help to incorporate the insights gained into your life, work through any difficult or upsetting material that arose and is lingering, and make sense of aspects of the experience you just can’t wrap your head around.