Many women who struggle with anxiety often have an ongoing relationship with Perfectionism as well.
Now I know it isn’t fair...and I don’t know who wrote these rules...but it appears to be true - anxiety & perfectionism like to go hand-in-hand.
So, the endless attention to detail and those high standards you have may have helped you to get to where you are today; yet, the fear of making a mistake, doing it wrong, letting others down, and not being good enough can lead to procrastination, feeling paralyzed, and thus, preventing you from achieving your next goal.
Perfectionism can affect your relationships too. It can lead to constant disappointment, nagging, helicopter parenting, or not making a commitment - or even getting out to date in the first place.
It is robbing your life of happiness. Perfectionism lies to you, telling you that your self-worth depends on your performance, your achievement, and/or your appearance.
Imagine how it would feel to break free from the chains of perfectionism and to stop feeling like an impostor. To truly understand how well you perform or how you fit society’s standard of beauty has nothing to do with your value and worth - because it really doesn’t!
How wonderful it would feel to be able to relax and be fully present and enjoy social situations. You would feel more confident in your world and in your relationships.
And instead of procrastinating on those important tasks, feeling excited to get started and allowing it all to come together as you go along - to be more in the flow.
We can look at where perfectionism serves you and where you can let go of some of those standards and see the world will not fall apart as a consequence of you doing so, but actually realize that the universe is working with you.
I would love to help you dissect what is behind your unique need for perfectionism, and to lessen those nasty feelings of shame and judgement, and to provide a safe space for you to open up and explore what it is like to be present in the moment and vulnerable. It takes courage to expose our shame and flaws - or what we perceive to be shameful and flawed, and then transmute it with self-compassion and acceptance into strength, resilience, and self-confidence.
Setting yourself free from the invisible self-imposed prison and giving yourself permission to show up and enjoy life just as you are - as the Authentic You. It is the best gift you can give yourself and those around you will love you for it too.