You have a hard time saying no to others, even if it means you’re always putting yourself last. You don’t want to let others down and have a strong desire to be liked by everyone - a genuine people pleaser.
You find it hard to communicate honestly to others about what you need or don’t want. You know you need better boundaries but don’t know how and are fearful it will create the conflict you try so much to avoid.
You have a need to be in a relationship even if on some level you know it is not a healthy one; so afraid of abandonment, rejection, being judged negatively by others - yet not finding the intimacy you are craving.
Your emotions are running the show - and it’s exhausting. Others may have labeled you has being over-sensitive. Shame and vulnerability are hiding under the surface. It’s overwhelming trying to keep it all together.
Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship in which we get all self-esteem and emotional needs from the other people in our life instead of being able to fulfill those things on our own. It’s roots are found in childhood trauma and the lost connection to one’s self. The bottom line is you’re engaging in relationships like a child and not like the confident adult woman you want to be.
Imagine how wonderful it will feel to know and trust yourself in setting up healthy boundaries in your life. How different your life will be when you know how to find and cultivate healthy relationships that support you and having the courage to let go of those that don’t serve you.
How freeing it will be to be out of that people-pleasing trap that has destroyed your self-esteem as well as the connection to yourself.
Breaking the bonds of codependency is not easy, especially if it is a multi-generational pattern. You have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone and step into the unknown.
Therapy can support you in challenging your fears, creating boundaries, and in building your confidence by improving your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect, and self-care.
Learning to find the things that bring you excitement and joy is a game changer. This is how you create the life you want. This is how you create the life you know deep inside you deserve.
If you don’t want to work with me please find a therapist to help guide you. There are many good therapists out there who are experienced with codependency. Your life is so precious and you don’t want to miss the opportunity to connect with yourself, the most important relationship you will ever have, and reach your highest potential - you can’t do that if you’re stuck in codependency.